According to Piaget, at the age of 7-11, a child's mind enters a concrete operational stage. At the concrete operational stage children solidify the thought and personality of their own from what they have learned. With more than half of children spending their time at home, parents have major influence in their life. Using an appropriate parenting and discipline method can make all the differences.
When speaking of discipline, our initial thoughts are the actions we take toward either punishing or rewarding the children. However, it is the thought behind the action that is often over looked. In this article we will go through three major parts for discipline; preparation, action, and maintenance.
In the life of a child, specifically the early stage, they seek for a role model who they can relate to. Step one is to establish your role as parent, insert yourself as a guidance to live by. Although it might sound easy or naturally to come by, it is a lot more complicated. The goal is not to have the child become you, but helping them become themselves being self-reliant and self-controlled. While there are four different parenting styles, an authoritative parenting style has been proven to be the most effective. An authoritative parent has clear expectations, consequences, and display affection toward their children. Authoritative parents allow flexibility and collaborative problem solving with their children when dealing with behavioral challenges. Thus, it is also really important for parents to understand children's thought and personality.
Here are 8 different ways to discipline,
- Let natural consequences play out
- Provide logical consequences
- Guide the child to better behavior
- Withhold a child's priviledges
- Scold strategically
- Use non-negotiable arguments
- Enforce an effective time out
Spanking lately has become a controversial topic. Although, many professionals strongly suggest to avoid spanking, many parents do it anyway. But you should know, while spanking may seem to be a short-term solution to misbehaving children, it has a lot more downside toward a child's long-term development. Spanking may cause children to adapt to more aggressive temperament, leading them to become more violent. Most importantly, it may cause them to normalize the thought of physically hurting their love ones.
Just like what is mentioned above about being an authoritative parent, guide your discipline techniques to fit well with your child's temperament; communicate and explain your discipline plan with your child, and be mindful of your child.
Most importantly, BE CONSISTENT. Consistency is the key to build your child's trust. That being said, if you reward your child with television time upon completing homework, than the reward should always be on the table, same goes with punishment. Understand that over the time of being parents, we may find ourselves applying different parenting methods, if some don't seem to immediately effective. Don't be too quick to give up. Give it time and BE CONSISTENT.