Bully Prevention

Bully Prevention

With the development of technology, bullying does not only occur by physical contact or from peers in school hallways. The fact is, children at home are still vulnerable to being bullied. Those who have been bullied may experience serious emotional and mental disabilities. These experiences may lead to issues with social development, and self-esteem. Moreover, children who have been bullied are also at an increased risk for problems with anxiety and depression, or may carry on the aggression later in life.


According to StopBullying, as adults, we have to first learn how to differentiate a playful engagement from actual bullying. Often times, learning the steps can help better prepare a prevention plan or avoiding re-occurrences. There are more tips listed down below:

  • For parents, recognizing the warning signs that your child is involved in bullying. Even witnessing an act of bullying could affect your child. Talk to your child and see if they display any sort of behavioral or emotional changes. Many times, kids won't ask for help, so it’s important we know what to look for.

  • For Educators, establishing a safe school climate. A safe environment can sharply decrease the occurrence of bullying. Also, actively engaging with parents and youth to build a well-rounded positive climate in the child's life.


Goes without saying, communication is the antidote to many mental illnesses, and bullying is no exception. But often times communication between adults and children end up on a one way channel, leaving the child feeling unheard and invalidated. We encourage parents, educators, and adults in a child's life to just listen to what they are feeling/thinking.



Some of you may feel that your problems in life are endless; adding extra weight to the life you've already been given. Maybe big or small, but if not dealt with appropriately, they could cumulate a mass force holding you down. And that, is the work of stresses.


According to MedicalNewsToday, stress is a natural human response adapting to the events and changes in life, creating responses such as fight or flight. To be more specific, in time of stress our bodies produce large amount of chemicals including cortisol adrenaline and noradrenaline. These chemicals are known to increase heart rate, heighten muscle preparedness, increase sweating and alertness.

In short term, stress can give you the push to complete your task. However, chronic stress (long term stress) could affect you physically and may potentially lead to chronic health issues or diseases.


American Psychology Association (APA) summarized 5 major body system that could be affected by stress:

  1. Musculoskeletal- On sudden onset stress, the muscles tense up and release the tension as stress passes. People with a long-term stress condition could develop musculoskeletal disorder.

  2. Respiratory System- Acute stress, such as the death of a loved one, can trigger asthma attacks.

  3. Cardiovascular- Chronic stress can contribute to long-term problems for heart and blood vessels that leads to hypertension, heart attack, or stroke.

  4. Endocrine- When body is stressed, the hypothalamus will send signals to the nervous system and pituitary gland, including adrenal glands and liver, to produce epinephrine and cortisol (stress hormones).

  5. Gastrointestinal- When stressing out, you may develop an unhealthy diet by eating too much or too less. While your diet may change, so will the digestive system. Stomachs can react with nausea or pain, and it will also affect how quickly the food moves through your body. You may find that you have either diarrhea or constipation.

  6. Nervous system- How stress develops comes down to our nervous system. Chronic stress can result in a long-term drain on the body and cause a wear-and-tear to our nervous system.



As mentioned above, there are times stress can give you the right push to work through things in life, but there are also times stress can do harm rather than good. Interestingly, how we perceive stress can change the effect of stress on us. Psychology Today provided 7 ways to not only beat stress, but to use it for our advantage:

  1. Accept that stress is part of life

  2. Keep problems in proper perspective

  3. Take care of the physical health

  4. Adapting healthy coping skills

  5. Balance social activity with solitude

  6. Acknowledge our own choices, and accepting results

  7. Always look for the silver lining


Is Social Media affecting your Holidays?

Is Social Media affecting your Holidays?

There are three major networks in our brain that are utilized when using social media:

  1. The mentalizing network:

    Mentalizing occurs without our realization as a way to understand the mental states of others based on our own mental state. This can be triggered by social media when deciding what to post and how it may be perceived or when looking for the motive behind someone else’s post. It is an non-optional cognitive behavior that leads to our compulsive use of social media.

  2. The self-referential cognition network:

    This network is the process by which the brain tells us what we think of ourselves. Social media participation triggers this effect to increase by 50% compared to our day to day conversation. It is almost a survival instinct that would also lead to compulsive use.

  3. The reward network:

    This is possibly the biggest contributor for high dependency to social networking. Every time we received a like or a positive comment, dopamine is released, giving a positive feeling. Thus, many people continue to engage in social media to receive the same feeling.


We may not always have the willingness or ability to eliminate our involvement in social media (This post does not promote people to completely eliminate the usage of social media), but if we understand the effects of social media on brain, it may help with our desire to be aware of how often we engage and the effects our usage can have on us as individuals. Here are some ways we can control our usage of social media.

  1. Tracking your time online

  2. Prioritize

  3. Get used to leaving your phone behind

  4. Spend more time with family and friends

In addition, there are many apps that can help you track your social media usage or limit your usage with the setting tailored to your liking. If you have other tips to control or monitor social media usage, please leave a comment and let us know!

Ever find yourself subconsciously checking your phone every few seconds even though there was no notification? Or, maybe you find yourself reaching for the phone in your pocket because you thought it was vibrating? It's no secret that social media has become a huge part of our lives.

Over 80% of the US population are using at least one social media site, and on average, spending 2 hours or more each day. Many have developed an addiction to social media; those who are not have developed a strong dependence.